Katharine Esty, Phd
being really old is always better than the alternative
people in their 70s are happier than people in their 60s
and people in their 80s are happier than people in their 70s
Will the happiness I have written so much about continue for me as I age
Living at a retirement community over these last 10 years
I have observed dozens of people in their 90s
But I have never asked them point blank how happy they were
One is in a wheelchair and has full-time care
Four of them have significant hearing loss and use hearing aids and one of them has vision issues
All of them are articulate and answered my questions with ease
Disability is more common for nonagenarians, according to the U.S. Census Bureau study
the proportion of people aged 90 to 94 having disabilities is more than 13 percentage points higher than that of 85- to 89-year-olds
The most common types of disabilities reported to the Census Bureau included difficulty doing errands alone and performing general mobility-related activities like walking or climbing stairs
When I asked them about what brings them joy and pleasure nowadays
four of the five said being with family was their greatest pleasure
It turns out family at 90 can mean our blood relatives or chosen family
They also said that being with family was what gives purpose and meaning to their life now
Two of them reported they get together each week for a Zoom meeting with their children and some of their grandchildren
Four of those I spoke with have members of their families who frequently visit
The fifth person said her family doesn’t come that often
One person said her purpose was “spreading love around.” Another said meaning came from a belief in Jesus and in eternal life. All five are active
have dinner with friends and acquaintances
One of the five recently flew across the country to visit an even older sibling
They do support causes they believe in financially
They are far less engaged in community organizations and churches and they avoid positions of responsibility
four of them said that living with the loss of a beloved spouse or the loss of a partner is the hardest part of their current life
They talked about how difficult it is to be on their own
Not being able to drive anymore was another big challenge for the four who can’t drive any longer
All of them talked about health issues but
none of them said that health is their biggest challenge
And they all expressed feeling lucky just to be alive
They all said that they have fewer challenges than most people their age
then they mentioned having three or four very serious conditions like macular degeneration
they are very concerned about the uncertain future of our country and the world
“The world is coming apart at the seams.” But they are content to have stepped off center stage
It is now up to the younger generations to fix the world’s problems
None of those I spoke with expressed any worry about death or dying
“How happy have you been in general during the last year
Using a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being ‘not at all happy,’ 6 being ‘sometimes happy,’ 8 being ‘usually happy’ and 10 ‘always happy,’ how would you rate your happiness?” Four out of 5 said they were 8
‘usually happy’ and one person responded 10
To be in your nineties is different and more challenging than being in your eighties
The loss of so many of their beloved spouses
and friends makes the nineties more difficult than in earlier decades
live with several major health issues as well
there are huge differences among those in the same age group
What most of us get wrong about being really old is that we continue to assume that people in their 90s must be unhappy because of their losses and health issues
From my interviews and years of observation
many if not most people in their nineties are happy
It seems people in their nineties have realized at long last that it is relationships that matter most
as the few people that have made it into their 90s
they know it is a waste of time to mull over regrets in the past or to worry about what may happen in the years ahead
I heard this quote online during my meditation this week and it seems a good place to end this blog.We only have this moment
sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake
Eightysomethings — A Practical Guide to Letting Go
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